Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question:
“Nice Guy’s Finish Last”? I’ve been reading up on nice guys, and wonder if there’s really a hint of truth in the “nice guys finish last” theory.
Speaking for myself, I’m generally a very nice guy; I take the initiative to do nice things for other people like opening the door for them or listening when they need advice. I don’t think I’ve turned down anyone in need of help. Heck, I’ve been described as a nice time quite a few times already (especially from some of my girl friends). Is this ruining my chances of finding that someone (i.e. people just taking advantage of my niceness)? What’s the deal with nice guys and relationships anyways?
Btw, I try not to be a pushover (I make my own choices and whatnot), but how nice is too nice?
My answer:
Well, if you are asking if it will ruin your chances of finding someone, I think the nice guy syndrome is somewhat hurting you. I am not sure what situation you are in, but I can tell you one thing: the Nice Guy theory is correct. I’ve been a nice guy most of my life and I have only gotten bad things out of the. The good things I perceived back then, like comfort, pity, similar nice guy friend, were not actually good things, they were bad things that only kept me a nice guy.
Nice guys truly do finish last. This however doesn’t mean that you have to be a jerk to succeed in life and with women. You have to maintain boundaries which you let no one cross. If you are strong and confident, it means that you say YES when you mean YES, and say NO when you mean no. Nice guys secretly believe that they are superior towards everyone else because they are so nice. They even secretly resent confident people.
If you get rejected and used by women a lot, you might be a nice guy. If you are older than 18, and you don’t have any sexual experience, you are probably a nice guy.
If you are, you can get help, don’t worry.
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