Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question:
Nice guy no more; I’m going bad boy? I just got done reading a lot of info both here and everywhere online and I decided for the first time in my life to try the bad boy approach for myself. So ladies (over 18 only please) tell me if this is what attracts you to the bad ones.
1.Supreme confidence in every situation–borderline cocky.
2.Never smile and never give compliments–even insult her.
3.Blatant disregard for any rules-without breaking the law.
4.Always be in control.
5. Be aloof–don’t call after dates, keep her guessing.
6. Never be dependable; never be where she expects you to be.
Also, this question is directed only towards the ladies out there who know they prefer to date bad boys. If you like the nice guys please don’t answer. Thanks!
My answer:
Let me tell you first that most women will not admit to you that they are attracted to bad boys. They simply care too much what society thinks of them. It’s the way they were raised and the way that everyone expects them to be.
Now, on your transformation. I understand why you don’t want to be a nice guy any more. Nice guys truly do finish last, if they ever finish! However, don’t think that you are going to become a bad boy so easily. If you have been a nice guy all your life, it won’t be a bit easy becoming a bad boy. Bad boys are usually jerks, and you don’t need to become a jerk to attract women.
All those rules up there that you wrote are good, but they are to strict to be followed ALL THE TIME. You should use them flexibly. Rather than force to being a bad boy, become a true confident man that simply says NO when he means NO, and says YES when he means YES. Don’t seek approval from women, don’t try to impress them. Live outside your comfort zone as much as you can.
See, those are simple guidelines to follow. There are a few of them and you can see how they work for you.
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