Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasn’t taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question: I’ve always been the nice guy. but its always backfired as truelly said “nice guys finish last” and thats my motto. ok say you are not married no girlfriend and a woman you work with has a thing for you. you know because she flirts and chased you around when you first started at your job and then everyone told you. well problem is shes married. ive always been the nice guy and not done anything. but im starting to sway in my ways. i wouldnt be the one cheating. i would just be getting some tail at work. i know if i had her come into my office and made the first move we would have sex. i think im tired of coming in last. tired of mister nice guy. she wants me, im single, and i wouldnt be cheating. is it ok to be the rebel every once in awhile? can you be naughty and still be an ok guy?
Answer:
Yes you can. This is the middle-ground known as being an “ok guy”. You see, the reason nice guys finish last is because they’re not realistic. They always try to please and do the right thing… and this is actually not genuine. Human nature is not nice… Human nature also has naughty sides… So we don’t trust nice people as we know they’re bound to screws us over one day. People who are realistic have a few flaws here and there, they have a few naughty sides.
So, to kill the nice guy syndrome, you need to accept that some drives and instincts are ok to indulge in. They don’t make you evil, they just make human. You don’t actually need to get laid with that chick… Its enough to let go of the guilt. In other words, you need to make an objective decision.
The reason you’re not going to sleep with her is because married women are dangerous. You don’t know when an angry husband will knock on your door at 3 am with a shotgun. So in other words, make decisions based on objective criteria, not niceness. Now, I’m not saying don’t have morals… But you’re not obliged to a guy you do not know. If it is your friend’s girlfriend, then yes, do not sleep with her. If its random guy you’ve never met, and will never meet, you have no moral obligation to him.
Again, I would recommend not sleeping with her, but out of objective selfish reasons, not because of niceness.
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Women like confident men. Make the first move.
I used to be the nice guy too and got jack. now im a real jerk and there are three girls that keep coming back for more. they know about each other and still dont quit. try it it will work
i mean dont be a total douche bag… but dont be a pushover.. i mean i dont like pussy men and i dont like assholes iether… just find a balance.. and no assholes do not finish in hte long run trust me.. iknow people say that im a girl and not fugly either lol so thats how i feel about it
well, you would be cheating as is she, and getting involved with a married woman probably won’t end well. As for the “Mr. Nice Guy” routine not working for you, capitulating to a married woman hitting on you is NOT a sign of being assertive. Try actively seeking someone who is available, and tell this lady to buzz off.
think how crappy the woman’s hubby will feel. this could end a marriage do thy have kids?
i think she is the wrong woman for you. but you do need to stop being a pushover. find someone else and be more confident. lots of woman are looking for the nice guy.
It seems 2 me that ur kinda upset about being the “nice guy” however i think this is a bad idea besides romance in the work place is always a bad idea!!! If your really as nice of a u claim 2 b u will find someone special just 4 u and im pretty sure u wouldnt want that person 2 cheat on u……….and 2 answer ur question about being a rebel……welll……i think ur looking at it the wrong way, if u want 2 be a rebel how about sky diving or bungy jumping.!!!!!! And as far as good guys finish last…….i think it just matters that u finish the race……..
Good Luck
If all you can do is form a relationship with a married woman, who obviously has marital problems then think about this. You will be on the rebound / you maybe responsible for a marriage breakup / there maybe children involved etc etc etc Nice guys just have to find nice girls…
What’s wrong with society today? I would kill for a nice guy but, they are too hard to find. Don’t lower yourself to this woman, you might regret it later on. Be yourself, keep your dignity, don’t change and never worry what others might think of you. All the best..
well… all young men who wanna sell out (sell out themselves) in order to get poon, go right ahead…