Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question:
Nice guy no more; I’m going bad boy? I just got done reading a lot of info both here and everywhere online and I decided for the first time in my life to try the bad boy approach for myself. So ladies (over 18 only please) tell me if this is what attracts you to the bad ones.
1.Supreme confidence in every situation–borderline cocky.
2.Never smile and never give compliments–even insult her.
3.Blatant disregard for any rules-without breaking the law.
4.Always be in control.
5. Be aloof–don’t call after dates, keep her guessing.
6. Never be dependable; never be where she expects you to be.
Also, this question is directed only towards the ladies out there who know they prefer to date bad boys. If you like the nice guys please don’t answer. Thanks!
My answer:
Let me tell you first that most women will not admit to you that they are attracted to bad boys. They simply care too much what society thinks of them. It’s the way they were raised and the way that everyone expects them to be.
Now, on your transformation. I understand why you don’t want to be a nice guy any more. Nice guys truly do finish last, if they ever finish! However, don’t think that you are going to become a bad boy so easily. If you have been a nice guy all your life, it won’t be a bit easy becoming a bad boy. Bad boys are usually jerks, and you don’t need to become a jerk to attract women.
All those rules up there that you wrote are good, but they are to strict to be followed ALL THE TIME. You should use them flexibly. Rather than force to being a bad boy, become a true confident man that simply says NO when he means NO, and says YES when he means YES. Don’t seek approval from women, don’t try to impress them. Live outside your comfort zone as much as you can.
See, those are simple guidelines to follow. There are a few of them and you can see how they work for you.
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sorry that’s ridiculous
I’m going to say none of those are a turn-on for a long-term relationship. I think the badboy appeal applies to short-term flings… I’d say be the good guy and things will eventually be in your favor with the girls
Just my opinion
Oh, and being insulting never works…NEVER!
Ladies won’t admit to being attracted to those things; they are subconsciously attracted to them.
You were probably better off just being your normal self. Not many girls that have respect for themselves will let a guy treat them like crap!
Dang son. That’s not a bad boy, that’s just a jerk!
Bad boys are sweet in the sense they hook you in, and then do bad stuff to push you away. They don’t insult a lady. Pretty much all guys to #5 and #6.
You’re gonna get nowhere with this attitude.
PLEASE ANSWER!
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see the thing a lot of girls love to date guys who got bad boy look without bad boy attitude/
that is sooooooooooooooooo wrong the only one i liked was no 1 please try harder if going for the bad guy
try:
walking past her every now and again and winking ( but keep walking )
if she asks you out then say u r busy but arrange for another time
DON’T be clingy
DON’T ever insult her even if she likes the bad boys ( u could end up with a glass of wine on Ur head and a broken nose )
hope this helps u m8
um, yeah you’r 100% right on every one of those rules. and to all these women who say differently: name one guy friend you ever had(who wasn’t gay) and you just told him ” i want a guy just like you to be with and have sex with all the time, but it can’t be YOU” so if you want a nice guy, date him and THEN chase the asshole for a change n stop making us good guys wait till our feeble years to even see poon. so you want an asshole to F%^& but you want a nice guy so HE can take all your emotional garbage and the asshole gets all the poon. so tell me fair or no? cuz i think it’s a load of crap you want a “nice guy whose a friend” and an asshole to f^&% untill he beats you and kicks your overweight and with three kids out on the street, and you want us nice guys to take you back then??? heh i wish we could say “sure your like a sister to me” and slam the door in their face n tell em to live under the freeway!
This only works on brain-dead girls under 18. If any guy is considering turning into a ‘bad boy’ BKA ‘douchebag’, BKA ‘total and complete jackass’… think about the long run. You’re not your true self. You’re just another d-bag that girls will avoid. You sold out (you ditched you God-given personality for a trend)… in order to get laid… really smart.