Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question:
“Nice Guy’s Finish Last”? I’ve been reading up on nice guys, and wonder if there’s really a hint of truth in the “nice guys finish last” theory.
Speaking for myself, I’m generally a very nice guy; I take the initiative to do nice things for other people like opening the door for them or listening when they need advice. I don’t think I’ve turned down anyone in need of help. Heck, I’ve been described as a nice time quite a few times already (especially from some of my girl friends). Is this ruining my chances of finding that someone (i.e. people just taking advantage of my niceness)? What’s the deal with nice guys and relationships anyways?
Btw, I try not to be a pushover (I make my own choices and whatnot), but how nice is too nice?
My answer:
Well, if you are asking if it will ruin your chances of finding someone, I think the nice guy syndrome is somewhat hurting you. I am not sure what situation you are in, but I can tell you one thing: the Nice Guy theory is correct. I’ve been a nice guy most of my life and I have only gotten bad things out of the. The good things I perceived back then, like comfort, pity, similar nice guy friend, were not actually good things, they were bad things that only kept me a nice guy.
Nice guys truly do finish last. This however doesn’t mean that you have to be a jerk to succeed in life and with women. You have to maintain boundaries which you let no one cross. If you are strong and confident, it means that you say YES when you mean YES, and say NO when you mean no. Nice guys secretly believe that they are superior towards everyone else because they are so nice. They even secretly resent confident people.
If you get rejected and used by women a lot, you might be a nice guy. If you are older than 18, and you don’t have any sexual experience, you are probably a nice guy.
If you are, you can get help, don’t worry.
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Nope, this theory is not true. I’m a 47 year old man, and have not crossed the finish line yet, and I do not believe I ever will. I’ve never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl.
Dude drop the nice guy act… girls want a cocky, full of himself guy. Now watch all the girls who answer this question are going to say they love nice guys haha…
i think of my self as a nice guy and i didnt finish last. you just have to have the confidence bc thats whats key.
Nice guys finish last but get the best.
That’s what I believe, nice guys are the best. Girls who aren’t worth it go for guys that aren’t worth it, vis-versa. And girl who are go for guys who are and vis-versa and they last longer if not forever.
i only date nice guys
girls end up marrying the nice guys
so just be your nice guy self
dont be an ass, be confident in who you are, the nice guy!
there is a saying that my dad uses “girls lust for bad boys, but want nice guys”….. there is such thing as to nice, like not turning down anyone in need of help..if its not serious and you have something planned go with what you want. stiffen up and get on a stern side every now and then. you will see a change
don’t get cocky us girls do not like it!!! and nice guys don’t finish last. girls all like dif. guys. and most girls i know like nice sensitive guys!!!
Yeah nice guys tend to finish later than others. I was the consummate nice guy in high school, always being there for girls when they broke up with a guy, helping out with their problems…etc. It wasn’t until college when I joined a band and played football that I realized girls like buttholes. The worse you treat those girls the better they like you, as long as you are in a rockin band or are the backup cornerback for the football team, then you can be nice once in a while and girls will still like you. The moral of the story is to do something better than sitting around playing frickin video games, learn a sport or an instrument.