Here is another question about why nice guys finish last… Now, its obvious he hasn’t taken my secret quiz for nice guys, that gets nice guys laid… But I’ll answer his question anyway.
Question
I mean every where I go I see nice girls with complete jerks. Whats the deal do they like being treated like crap?
My quick answer to this question:
Do girls like being treated like crap? Not really.
So why do they always go for jerks… Well, they tend to not have a choice.
Think about it like this, if your only choice was between a cokehead, occasionally violent drama quen who is a professional stripper and looks like your favorite pornstar… OR an obese, super geeky, super asexual (but nice) morbidly obese girl. Whom would you choose? The stripper of course!
Do you really like to have a cokehead girlfriend? No, but physical attractivness and sexuality are more important to you than nice-ness…
Same thing with girls. Contrary to popular belief, they’re as shalow as men are. They’d rather have the hot sexy jerk, than a completely emasculated, boring, shy unsexy guy. See, most nice guys are extremely unattractive and unsexy. Not because they’re not jerks… but since we live in a culture that gives people two wrong choices, become the macho or the nice guy. Same with women, become the iffeminate insecure geek girl, or become a sexy bitch.
There are good men and good women… Like a guy who’s sexy, confident, masculine AND at the same time mature, respectful and nice, giving, caring… But these men are rare, very rare. As rare as a real woman, a mature, confident, nice, sexy woman.
Women don’t choose jerks, they settle for jerks. Your personal solution? Become a GOOD man… The guy who has the advantages of both the jerk and the nice guy, and women will be fighting over you and dumping jerks to be with you.
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Nice guys don’t always finish last. It’s almost always in the way you preceive your situation. Not being in a relationship, or choosing who and when you date, doesn’t mean in any way that you have ‘finished last’. With girls these days many guys have found it easier to play them. Girls are so naieve and self absorbed these days. They have no confidence and use their self-pitty to attract guys. Nice guys often fall for these types of girls who end up hurting them in the end becuase all they wanted or thought they needed was attention. In some cases, it’s the girls kindness that guys take advantage of. If a girl is with a disrespecful guy it may be because she’s never had another real relationship, so she doesn’t know what to expect. Or she doens’t know how to leave. If anyone you know has a relationship like that, you should talk to them becuase it’s better that she knows how other people view their relationship. Myabe it would make her think about other options.
If you keep a level head and make sure you really know someone before you date, you will be better off getting a girl who would respect you for who you are. :]
Those type of girls are stuck up bitches who are basically sluts who only date *bad boys* and those type of girls are usually immature and stupid to not realize how bad the bad boy or jerk is treating them. Sorry if any one gets offended but it sometimes happens.
Most of the times I see nice guys with nice girls because most of my teachers in High School are nice and are married to nice girls and not all nice guys finish last I’ve seen allot of couples in stores that are really nice too. I am nice and I will wait until I graduate High School or Finish College to find me a nice girl until I have to or die a virgin. I just don’t understand why most girls these days hate the nice guys who try to get their attention and try so hard to ask them out.
And yeah I hate bad boys so I basically don’t care what people say to me because I hate it when men treat woman like crap and it really ticks me off when I see a woman crying on the ground when ever a man miss treats her badly. Sorry if I get allot of thumbs down though because of being a nice guy I just hate the fact that the world hates them. And no I am not *too nice* I can sometimes be a cool guy and I have a bad side unfortunately when someone gets me mad.
No they don’t like being treated like crap, but they do like a guy with balls.
Nice guys always finish last because they don’t have the balls to make moves. They’re scared sh*tless just to talk to a girl or ask her out. Nice guys are BORING.
Girls want a fun, adventurous guy who’s confident. Unfortunatly, most of the guys who meet that criteria are also assholes. You don’t have to be an asshole to get girls but you’ve got to have confidence and not be too chickensh*t to make a move on a girl.
Girls don’t respect a guy who worships the ground they walk on.
BTW: Don’t listen to any advice a girl gives you on this subject. Girls don’t understand what a nice guy is. When they say nice guy them mean the fun adventurous type that isn’t a jerk. Not the too nervous to ask a girl out type.
LISTEN TO SMT, SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE’S TALKING ABOUT!
I think birds of a feather flock together. A person is drawn to people who remind them of themselves. Not totally, but familiarity attracts. So maybe these “nice girls” aren’t as nice as you’re imagining them to be.
I used to be a nice guy. And I used to wonder why I always got treated like crap by women. Then I realized there were plenty of girls who treated me well, but they just never seemed to capture my attention. Actually, I avoided them like they were toxic chemicals. I always chased after the feather in the wind.
And then I realized something even more profound, I was a feather in the wind to girls. I would lead a girl on long enough to get that hit of “I could have her if I wanted” and then run away before anything serious would develop. I focused so hard on my dreams of perfect love with that great girl I was going to meet someday, focused so hard on how these unavailable girls were treating me, focused so hard on how great it would be if they could just see what a great lover I’d make, I was blind to how I looked to others. In my mind I was the great lover who just needed a break. In reality my heart was closed, and full of hurt and fear. And these were the kind of people I drew into my life.
That’s life, girls like the bad boys and not the yes man. The yes man is to easy, girls like a challenge. You can try being a nice guy just don’t smother them or submit to all their request. Don’t always be available. You have a life don’t always put they’re wants ahead of yours, don’t always agree with them it’s okay to have your own opinion and they should respect you for that. Have self confidence and don’t let her run your life, have interest beside just her. A lot of men live for their girl and when she dumps him, he’s devastated, don’t fall in this trap, it hurts to bad. When you meet the right girl, you’ll know it without any doubt, until then enjoy!!
Because nice guys are boring. So quit whining about it and learn from your mistakes. It’s alright to be nice just not nice and boring. Girls like excitement and you don’t typically get that with a nice guy.
The guy that finishes last gets the girl that finishes last, and those are two great people. Those girls with the jerks? Forget them. Best things come to those who wait they always say..
maybe the girls aren’t that nice either
or they’re just stupid
and sometimes it really does seem like girls
enjoy being treated bad, unfortunately
not me. lol
Not all girls go for the jerky type. I don’t at least, I love the nice guy type. IN the long run, the nice guys are gonna end up better off.